Drama. This inevitable part of our lives always finds a way to ruin just what we think we want. We may not be able to completely get rid of it forever, but it is a possibility to avoid it. Whether you are in a relationship, or you just don’t want to deal with it, we all have relationship issues with the people we deal with day to day.

Being in a relationship is a commitment and requires compromise from both of the people. You should be willing to help out that person in whatever they might need you for—whether it is just as a friend, or as something a little more serious. Typically with the boy-girl interactions that occur in high school, there is drama involved.

However, let’s say, you are having some problems with your guy friend. He says that he wants to be more than just friends, but you don’t want that kind of commitment. Instead of taking that and respecting your decision, he decides to ruin you and tell everyone that you “don’t want anything to do with guys.” Trying to stir the pot, this “friend” has successfully started drama for you that you didn’t want in the first place. How could you have prevented this from happening?

Honestly, there isn’t a way you could have prevented this from unraveling the wrong way, but you could have avoided it through choosing wiser friends. Yes, as girls, it’s typical for us to fall head over heels for a guy, but we need to learn to find the one who will be your friend, not just a boyfriend.

Friends can also try to cause problems. However, trying not to include yourself in their problems will greatly aide you when it comes down to the important things in life. If they are people who like to be involved in whatever drama they can, then they probably weren’t a good friend to be associated with in the first place.

No one can completely stop the problems that come with friendships and the boy-girl relationships, but it is possible to avoid them through being cautious of whom you associate with. If you do end up getting involved with the wrong people, the wrong things can happen. You can get tied up in a mess that wasn’t even yours to deal with in the first place. Being involved as little as possible is probably the best decision you can make. It lets the people who are involved fix their own issues, and it gives you room to breathe—and relax. Teens have drama, and relationships can be messy sometimes—that’s just how the world seems to go. It’s the inevitable.